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This song describes pretty well how I’ve been feeling the last several days. And from what I can see on Facebook – I’m not alone in these feelings lately!

So I felt led to take a break from our regular series (How to Find Wisdom) this month and take a few minutes to talk about it.

Worn Out & Overwhelmed?

Worn Out & Overwhelmed

We all get there at some point. It can be for a myriad of reasons – some in our control and born out of our mistakes, others not of our making. But we all get there.

Finances, busyness, relationships, eating habits, health, weather all take their toll – and usually one starts a domino effect on the others. None of us mean to knock over that first piece, and as we scramble to fix it, the others often fall in their place. So how can we fix it?

Fix #1: Go to Jesus

“Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” Matthew 11:28-30

Often the first thing that goes when we are feeling worn out and overwhelmed is quality personal time with the Lord. We rush through our prayers and devotions, or neglect them altogether. However, Jesus made it pretty clear that we will find rest in Him, not a completed to-do list.

If we find ourselves worn out this needs to be our first fix – make (not find!) the time to pray and get into the Word!

Fix #2: Ask for Wisdom

Sometimes it’s clear as day why we are feeling worn out and overwhelmed. Other times we have no idea why we feel like we do. Either way we need to ask for wisdom to know what it is that’s led us to this point and how to get out of it, and how to stay out of it in the future.

Fix#3: Take some time away

This often seems counter-productive but whenever I’m feeling worn out and overwhelmed, I find that getting away for a set amount of time is the best thing I can do. Feeling upset, aggravated and overwhelmed is counter-productive no matter how much effort and time we put into a task.

Walking away for a set amount of time allows our body and minds to relax, and we can come back to the task at hand clear-headed and refreshed.

I recently took a 24-hiatus from Facebook and even from my computer – it helped immensely to be able to come back and start-over. It’s also part of the reason I’m taking a break in our series.

Fix #4: Take care of you

As busy ladies – the first person we stop taking care of is ourselves.

When we are busy and things are going crazy we don’t take time to feed, bathe, and clothe ourselves properly. We throw on whatever we can grab the quickest. Eat whatever requires the least amount of work and most amount of comfort. And pray no one sees or smells us when we are out.

However doing these things take a toll on our physical and emotional health. Not eating good food or drinking enough water rakes havoc on our hormones and fills us with toxins – which nobody’s got time for! And a quick change of clothes and even the tiniest bit of makeup (for me it’s eyeliner) can really make you feel better and more capable of facing the day.

So take a few minutes and grab a healthy snack and a large glass of water. Put on a fresh set of clothes, brush your hair, and put on whatever makes you feel better about yourself . It really does help everyone in the long run!

Fix #5: Let it go – or call for backup

We have to be realistic with our expectations of what we are capable of doing. Sometimes this means we have to let go of our perfectionism and just get something done. Right now for me this means I don’t need to write the perfect post or have the best graphics to go along with it – and I’ll be honest I’m struggling with wanting to make it happen. But I really need to just let it go and realize that perfectionism keeps me caught in the ‘Worn Out and Overwhelmed trap’. (I went back and added the image to be pinned at a later date (see Fix #4!))

Calling for backup is also sometimes necessary – though I admit I hate doing this the most. Often we think we can and must do it all. But there is wisdom in knowing when to call for backup – and actually taking the step to do it. And bonus – oftentimes us reaching out and asking for backup blesses the people we’ve asked. This can be financial blessing (in the case of asking a professional) or in the case of a friend by letting them feel useful and helpful to you. I’ve been blessed in both these areas when someone called me for backup – and it really does help both parties – so get rid of the guilt and call!

I hope this post helped you – I know it helped me today just in writing it.

Be Blessed & Don’t Stress –

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  60 Responses to “Worn Out & Overwhelmed? 5 Tips to fix it”

  1. Such good points. I’m pretty lucky because I have both my mother and mother-in-law who come over a few days each week to play with the kids so I can get some stuff done. It’s a win-win because the kids get some valuable grandparent time, and I get time to get things that need to be done without taking my focus off of my kids.

    • That is great! My mother-in-law lives near as well and is great for that! And I’m doubly blessed with a great “adoptive” grandma as a neighbor who loves to go shopping with us or to pop over for a short time to play so I can be in other parts of the house 🙂

  2. Such great tips! Thanks for the reminders!

  3. I am worn out and overwhelmed. I needed to read this today. Have to remember to let go and let God at times.

  4. Crystal, thank you soooo much for posting this!! You are right on target about the tendency to skip Bible time and not take care of ourselves properly when we’re stressed and that we forget to pray for wisdom just when we need it the most–at least, I tend to do this too! Your advice was so timely. God bless you, godly woman!

  5. NIce reminder…and timely for me too. Thanks. 🙂

    ~Lorelai
    Life With Lorelai

  6. I so need this right now. I am wearing myself out with all the things I am doing and it’s just going to get worse as school starts up again. I have been trying real hard to work on this so I can have a happy life not a stressed til I wear out and die life.

  7. Oh Crystal, you know I needed this! You are speaking right to me. I love the be blessed and don’t stress. I am definitely working on that. Thank you for being a blessing to me! 🙂

  8. Thank you for this! As a single mom, I often get overwhelmed. I also have this bad habit of taking on too much like many moms do. I am unemployed and started working as a Virtual Assistant plus trying to spend time on building a blog. Let’s just say I’ve filled my time with too many other things to truly focus on either. I’ve decided I’m not taking on another project for the church or anyone else. Not to be mean about it, but I have to put my focus on supporting myself and my kids all while trying to follow in the direction I believe God is leading me. Thanks, again! Great post!

    • I think struggling to say no is the biggest cause of us feeling worn out and overwhelmed! It’s a very difficult thing to do! I recently said no to helping out at Church and it was so hard – but I know I could not do a good job in that area or maintain my current responsibilities well if I’d have said yes. Still its a struggle!

  9. Stop knowing what I’m going through lol =) Yes, I know I need to take care of me too, I guess I just needed another reminder, Thanks!

  10. Aw, thank you for this. I have been feeling that way too. I hadn’t been to church in a few weeks for a variety of reasons and boy did it feel great to get back to it today. I need that time to reconnect and recharge. And I really love that song.

  11. […] piled up on me lately causing me to feel (as a fellow blogger friend of mine wrote about recently) worn out and overwhelmed. The last thing I felt was joyful. I have tried to pin point the reasons for this and am working on […]

  12. This is a refresher! Recently, I’ve been ‘worn out, overwhelmed and stressed out’ and I had to get myself back to that place where I felt comfort in the fact that God provides for all of our needs. I’ve been praying more and even having praise and worship time with my young daughters, as it helps in giving us that peaceful atmosphere. I love that song (that you posted) and 10,000 reasons.

  13. I love that song you posted. My sister posted it on facebook to me one day a while back and I played it and just cried because I was feeling so overwhelmed and unhappy with where I was in life. I was thinking, “Really God? Is this what you have for me?” – that is when I started my blog and podcast and I got picked up by an I Heart Radio affiliate with the opportunity to broadcast on Satellite. I realized that I needed to step back and let God have His way instead of me getting in the way. I haven’t made it on satellite yet, but in His time – because that is always perfect! Great post!

  14. Usually, I head for the garden when I’m stressed and need a fresh perspective. Just the physical act of pulling weeds and harvesting veggies makes my mind quiet. It’s definitely my respite when I’m feeling stressed!

  15. I am the worst at taking care of me! When we finally get to wear the mom hat, we forget to wear the ‘take care of mom fancy hat!’ My husband has given me a day each week to go out and have a mommy day. I usually go to the coffee shop and blog, do a devotional, or read. It is absolutely refreshing!

  16. Great tips, Stephanie!!! I can definitely do a better job of using all 5 of these tips. I think the one I struggle with most is taking time for myself. I almost feel guilty about doing this, but the truth is that I’m no good to anyone else if I don’t take care of myself first. This means going to bed on time, eating healthily and taking time to REST! Thanks so much for sharing this!

  17. Just what I needed to hear. Sometimes we forget to take care of ourselves so we can take care of others.

  18. Thank you for writing this… what you said is so true – and all these steps are necessary and helpful. I just spent 4 days in sunny Florida speaking at a conference. It was technically ‘work’, but I was away from my 2 surviving triplets, and I needed that break from being a stay-at-home mom to them. God knows, and if you give it to him, he makes a way. 🙂 Thanks for speaking truth to all of us. 🙂

  19. What a great reminder that we all need to take a moment and take care of ourselves. Excellent post! Thanks!

  20. Wonderful post …we all need to step back and do the above to fix ourselves 🙂

  21. I think I needed this post today. I am feeling overwhelmed with getting everything up and running. I know I do have a bad habit of giving it to God and then taking it back. I’ve just gotten to the point that I give it to him and let it go

    • I forgot to mention that doing so has healed me of my anxiety disorder. I haven’t had to take meds in months.

      • Oh my, I do the same thing, give it up only to take it back the next day. I have to pray about this stuff A LOT. And I too have an anxiety disorder and have been med-free for 4 months I think. I still struggle with anxiety, but have the means to cope with it now that I did not before.

        • Way to go both of you for getting off meds! It’s nice to have them when absolutely needed – but God is the GREAT Physician! He has healed me in more ways than I can count – and anxiety and depression is just one way!

          • There is a time for medication for sure and perhaps not everyone is in a position to stop taking it depending on their situation, but it can become a crutch, I think. For me, it did. I am so happy to be free of it now. Life is fuller, more rich and I have to trust and pray even more 🙂 It has been a good experience for me, getting off of it and living without it.

  22. I’m reminded of this scripture.

    Matthew 6:27
    Can any one of you by worrying add a single hour to your life?

    Worry can do no good, but it can do plenty harm. Stress is from the enemy. Do not let him win! This is great advice. There is no shame in asking for help.

  23. What a beautiful song. I think I vaguely heard it before on the radio, but having the lyrics made it so much more powerful. I know a few people in my life who are feeling very worn. I hope this song encourages their heart. Thanks.

  24. #4 is how I’ve made a huge difference in my life over the past year or so. I put empty time on my schedule every week, and especially on days where I anticipate needing some quiet. I don’t let that time get interrupted by doctors’ appts or anything, and even if I only get to rest and have some peace, it’s totally worth it.

  25. These are great tips! I find that if I’m feeling frustrated or overwhelmed that taking a 15 minute break really helps. Praying, seeking wisdom, and asking for help are my go to options during that 15 minute break! 🙂 Thanks for sharing!!

  26. Thanks for the post. Being overwhelmed is such a common emotional for busy moms!

  27. Those are great tips! Especially the one about me time, and taking a break. It’s easy to get sk caught up in things that you neglect yourself. And sometimes, the only way to get a fresh perspective is to go away for a while.

  28. Quiet time is so important, and so hard to manage. But we never gain wisdom or insight being constantly busy.

  29. Story of my life. It’s nice to be reminded that it’s really not as a bad as it seems. Once you take a step back and regroup, you can prioritize what is really important.

  30. Great post! I remember those days, but thankfully they are behind me and you will make it through too. It’s great that you know how to handle them and what you need to do.

  31. Really good post, sometimes we forget this. But with God in the first place we can do anything. Thanks for sharing! 😉

  32. Overwhelm was also the reason behind my post for this event. I’ve realized that I’m a control freak and that I have to let go of some roles that I have taken upon my back these years. I have to accept that I can’t do it all. 🙂 Taking care of myself and slowing down help me the most against overwhelm. It’s also important to prioritize and focus on things that are the most important – but focusing is really hard for me because I wanna stretch myself in so many directions. Great tips!

  33. I agree with the “take time away” part. Sometimes when I feel stressed, I need to give myself a timeout. Whether it’s 5 minutes or 2 hours to do something I enjoy, it usually does wonders!

  34. #3 and #4 really hit home. I do find it much easier to overcome something when I take a bit of time to step away from a situation or work project to clear my head and gain a fresh start or outlook As for taking care of yourself physically…I couldn’t agree more. Exercising is an excellent natural mood booster, and I’ve found that I really feel like crap when I don’t drink water like I should. Thanks for sharing your tips!

  35. Reading through your comments, it seems pretty obvious how many needed your reminder. Thanks for sharing these 5 fixes. I especially loved the music link!

  36. Great advice. It is so easy to get caught up in the busy daily life and start to feel overwhelmed! Your tips were spot on and hopefully will prove helpful to others facing stress!

  37. Thank you for this post. I know when I am overwhelmed and its too much I read a couple of passages that are personal to me and then I hand it over to God and put it in his hands. I found that I can’t do it on my own and I have to let it go.

  38. What a great post. Fix #1 is my favorite solution. Recently I’ve been carrying a rosary in my purse and whenever I feel overwhelmed and stressed when I’m at work I’ll pull it out. Just holding it and saying a little prayer helps me feel centered.

  39. lately what helps me when I’m overwhelmed is some time off from all the screens in my life. Computer, phone, tv etc.. So much noise it is exhausting.

  40. I love that song! It’s so easy to get oneself overwhelmed, overworked, and stressed out. Those are great tips! #3 is probably the hardest one for me. I’m sure it’s become an addiction and that means I probably need to take time off from it even more. A Facebook detox of sorts. 🙂

  41. Thank you for writing this post. I think I was meant to read this during this crazy week. 🙂

  42. Yes, having a plan of attack is very helpful. I find a 10- to 15-minute walk rejuvenates me, gets my blood flowing, and brain re-energized. Thanks for the post, and keep on relaxing!

  43. Crystal, I needed to read and hear this today! I pinned it to my Wise:Try This! Pinterest board. I have begun reading my bible again looking for wisdom and guidance. I feel overwhelmed–A LOT! I don’t take enough time for myself, but I’m going to change that. Thank you for sharing! Visiting from Commentathon.

  44. Balancing our roles as a wife, mom, homemaker, blogger, etc can be so overwhelming. I tend to take on too much and then get irritated when I can’t get everything done that I wanted done. And then comes the domino affect you mentioned and it not only leaves me feeling worn out and guilty, but it also starts affecting my relationship with my boys and my hubby. What helps me the most is having some time to myself. Some days I will just forget the housework that needs to be done and cuddle up under a blanket on the sofa watching a favorite movie. Sometimes my hubby will take care of the boys and let me have time to do get my projects done. Often times, the time to myself is taking the boys to the YMCA where I can workout or shower or sit and blog while my kids are in their free child-care. Just having some quiet time to myself to refocus, recharge, and rest is all I need to tackle that to-do list!

  45. Wonderful tips. Prayer should definitely be our first resort… was glad to see it as your #1! 🙂 You are so right in saying that it is often the first thing to suffer just due to our being so overwhelmed. We feel like we can get everything done on our own strength (I believe points 1 and 5 go hand-in-hand!) and we forget, although not purposely, to pray for help. I can definitely relate to #4 and have committed myself to implementing #3… for my own sanity! Thanks for sharing.

  46. Taking a little time away truly helps me! I just need to take a breath, have enough time to miss what I have, and it makes me value all my blessings more 🙂

  47. These are wonderful pointers for a mommy of two littles like me!!! I need this reminder, especially to take time for myself to be refreshed and get refocused. So often, I have to just breathe a prayer and I find the grace I need in that moment!! Blessings to you!

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